Hi W,
I imagine you’re surprised to receive a message from me.
Before passing it on to you, N. surely told you a bit about me. So you already know me a little. I also got to know you through N., who told me about you when she sent me a short video showing both of you in front of the mosque in Abu Dhabi.
N. shared with me the discussion she had with you, your brother and your sister about love. Since it’s something we often talk about together, she told me she would have liked me to share my vision of love with all of you.
That’s not what motivates my message. What pushed me to write to you are two things. The first is that N. told me a bit about what you’re experiencing in your relationship. The second is that I saw in the two videos she sent me, that you always make a gesture to send love without knowing who will watch them.
I felt that you are a girl who has a lot of love to give and wants to share it. Your gesture wasn’t superficial or mechanical, but your heart was in it. The proof is that in the second video you put your hand on your heart after drawing one with your hands and blowing a kiss in the air.
You know that everything you give comes back to you. Moreover, since your gestures made a good impression on me, they gave birth to a need for expression.
Despite this, I waited a few days before writing to you, because I wanted to make sure that this desire doesn’t come from me, and that what I’m going to tell you is what your heart wants to tell you through me. I said your heart, I didn’t say God or Life, because this Source, whatever name we give it, is in your heart.
Communication beyond appearances
You know W, it has happened to me to write to people I have never met physically. And there has even been an exchange with them. These are people I was told about in different contexts, which gave birth in me to an impulse to write to them and they were all very grateful to me.
I feel that when someone tells me about someone who is going through difficulties or who simply has questions, this person enters my field of consciousness, and therefore my world, and I can communicate with her. Because even if I don’t know the external conditions of her life, I recognize what is most important in her: the fact that she has a heart that seeks what we all seek, that is, peace and love, whatever form it takes.
We are metaphysical beings incarnated in physical forms. Our essence is invisible. Real communication transcends space and time. You can read a book whose author is no longer in this world, and you can feel a deep connection with him. Because we are all facets of the same Source, sparks of the same eternal Fire.
You may know this saying that the Sufis repeat, in which the Divine says ”I was a hidden Treasure and I loved to be known, so I created creatures so that they would know Me“.
Rumi gave this analogy: ”When the Divine created human beings, He dropped a great mirror on the ground which broke into an infinity of pieces that all reflected differently the same face of the Divine”. It’s a beautiful saying because it’s said that God created Man in His image, so behind our different physical appearances hides the same divine Presence which, She, is the same in all.
It is this image of the Divine in us that we must discover because it alone can fulfill us. It is our true nature. Each of us is a marriage between the finite and the Infinite. The finite is the appearance behind which the Infinite in us is hidden.
Love as the essence of our being
For me, we took a body to feel love. Love exists independently of any relationship. It’s a feeling of fullness and inner satisfaction that pushes us to share it with others.
But we haven’t learned to find it in ourselves independently of any relationship. We think it comes to us from outside. This is not entirely true, because the outside plays the role of a mirror. If someone loves you but you don’t love them, their love cannot touch you. So it’s not the love that comes from outside that gives us pleasure but the one that comes from inside us. More precisely, what gives us pleasure is the desire we feel.
Unfortunately, when our desire is not shared, we forbid ourselves to continue feeling it, and it is we who punish ourselves. Of course, a desire that is not shared does not last forever, but I think we should not repress it as long as it is present in us. Because this desire is made up of our own energy and represents an impulse in us; if we repress it, we hurt ourselves.
What we love in the other is an image of ourselves that they reflect back to us.
Transforming difficult relationships into opportunities for growth
Many people find themselves engaged in unsatisfying emotional relationships. This is especially the case for women, particularly in countries where culture does not grant them the same rights as men.
Some women often realize that their partner is not a true companion on life’s journey. They don’t feel comfortable with him, they don’t have the same tastes, complicity is absent between them and he doesn’t have a genuine impulse to please her.
It’s regrettable, but as in everything in life, there is always a positive side to what seems negative, and vice versa. The experiences, relationships and challenges we encounter in life can lead us to a better understanding and greater harmony with ourselves.
Everything in our life, including and especially difficult relationships, should awaken us to our true spiritual nature and encourage us to seek love within ourselves. On one hand, we cannot hope to change others and, on the other hand, fleeing difficult situations before learning their lessons is not a lasting solution.
But the expansion of our consciousness that we can achieve in difficult situations does not mean that we must refuse the gratifications that life can offer us through other people. We can benefit from both.
Welcoming love in all its forms
A woman naturally wants her partner to want to spend quality time in her company, and not only when he has a physical desire for her. She likes to feel desirable for her mind as well. Communication and intellectual complicity are very important to her, so that her mind is stimulated.
Even if she has great confidence in herself, she needs her partner to reassure her regularly by repeating words that highlight her qualities. It happens that sometimes such words are not said to her by her partner but by other men.
If she has understood that, in existence, everything can be perceived positively and transformed into a benefit, she will see no harm in welcoming the compliments that are made to her from outside. With her partner, she can practice finding independence by feeling love from within.
Both situations contain a benefit. We must thank for both and remember that the love that is expressed to us from outside can diminish and disappear, but the love we find in ourselves grows and remains.
This is the message that your heart wanted me to transmit to you: remain open to all forms of love that present themselves to you, whether they come from within or from without. Each has its place in your journey toward a greater understanding of who you really are.